Social Calendar

As the next three months are set to be ones for big changes... new city, new job etc.  I have decided to party hard at the same time.

I put myself on a social networking site for meet ups the other day not knowing what to expect but to my surprise it is just a bunch of cool people organising high and low-key nights all over the city.  It isn't for singles and the mix of people seems to be vast.  I'm booked on my first social this Friday at a rock bar so I will keep you posted.  If it goes well I might use the same site to link up with people when I am travelling with work too.

I also stumbled upon a woman who posted an amusing ad on gumtree and replied to find out several other girls in their late 20's and early 30's had done also.  We are having our first meet this Saturday afternoon at a coffee house.  

So as you can see bloggers, all in all I may have managed to organise myself a rather busy social calendar moving forward with minimal effort and maximum impact.  Hurrah!

1, 2, 5...9... eek!

It may make your teeth purple and your lips black but when you can't be assed to walk to the fridge to fill your glass up a drink best served at room temperature is your best friend :)

Would you rather walk backwards the rest of your life or stump your toe every time you took a step forward?

Would you rather be completely bald (no eyebrows, no hair, no eyelashes) or have blue skin?

I could contemplate 101 things but the only subject on my mind this evening is one of numbers.  I just watched the film 'what's your number?' and let me tell you...  If the average person sleeps with 10.5 people in their lifetime... I am seriously oversubscribed!  Also, apparently any female who has slept with over 20 people is destined to be single forever... well 97% anyway.  Sheesh!

Which brought me to my task for the evening (bottle of red in hand), to make my 'list'.  How many people have I slept with anyway, and will I be joining the 97th percentile?

The good news is that I have yet to reach the dizzy heights of 20.  The not so good new is that 10.5 passed long ago and making my list was waaaaaaaaay harder than expected.  I can't remember the name of one guy entirely, have forgotten the surname of several and to be honest feel I may have missed a few along the way.  Oh dear!

For those of you who have been following me a while you will know that I don't really qualify to fall into the category of 'slut' but seriously... who knew I would make it to the 'trollop' grey area.

*sigh

This week no less than 2 men have told me that I would make a 'great girlfriend', both of which are in relationships... think I have hit that horrible land of almost 30 and single desperados.  Oh dear.

So my number... its 15.

What's yours?

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Benjamin Taylor - Wicked Way

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XrpYBm1inNs

Missed...

Last night I was struggling to get to sleep as my shoulder was being gnarly and so I was messing about on my phone and decided to clear my 'chat history' on whattsapp and in my messages.  A simple task I hear you say... Wrong!

I had a huge debate with myself when I had deleted all the messages from Mr X about whether to block him also.  We haven't spoken since September (I'm not going to go on about that though), but there is still a little part of me that despite not calling, emailing or texting him doesn't want to completely cut off all lines of communication.  

Anyway, after some thought, I decided I would block him as if he really needed to get hold of me he could call.  I started adding his numbers to the block list and then the unthinkable happened.   My shoulder went into some kind of mad spasm making me drop my phone and as I picked it up I realised it was dialling his number (4am his time).  I clicked 'end call' as soon as I realised but was convinced I had heard it ring before I got to it.  After a few icy cold moments of panic I decided not to worry about it and that I was probably just being paranoid and the phone hadn't actually managed to make a connection, after all, it would have been an International call and the phone couldn't have been out of my hand more than a couple of seconds... Wrong!

This morning I awoke to a text from Mr X wishing me a Happy belated New Year, asking if I was ok as he had missed a call from me while he was sleeping... SHIT!

I wasn't sure whether to text back, ignore the message, be nice and pretend like everything was ok explain the situation and wish him happy new year too or to send a snotty reply along the lines of 'why do you give a shit, go back to being invisible'.  Don't get me wrong, I am sure like many of you reading this, in the past (and I'm not proud of it) have played the  dropped call game.  This however, was a genuine and most irritating mistake.

I decided to opt for the short and simple response of 'I dropped my phone, sorry if it woke you.  Serendipity'  

I'm not sure it was the right msg to send.  I mean, he had received a dropped call from me at some crazy ass time in the morning and had text to see how I was as soon as he got up.  He had tried to be pleasant with the whole Happy New Year thing, but who are we kidding, that was more of a 'felt it mandatory' than anything else or he would have text on the 1st.  Still,  I am really annoyed at the whole situation and to be honest found it worryingly upsetting and I'm sure I will despite my best efforts end up deliberating my response for a while yet.

Damn my sodding female hormones and inability to just not give a shit.

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Frou Frou - Let Go
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=13WAhlE02ew&feature=related

Grab Your Coat...

I was talking to a guy in work today and I'm not sure how the subject came up amid reports and stats analysis but we got onto the topic of 'chat-up lines'.  He seemed to think they were all a total waste of time, I on the other hand stood firmly on the angle that even the most hideous chat-up line can be successful if delivered by a hot enough guy with a little charm and a sarcastic smile.

To be honest I used to hate all chat-up lines but a few years ago even I had to take my imaginary hat off to the intelligence of one delivered to me a few years ago.  I was in a crowded bar on a Friday night after work and was approached by a guy who was attractive but clearly fell into the category of 'charmer' and as such would have ordinarily made it onto my 'avoid' list.  As he made his way beside me through the crowd at the bar I knew he had clocked me and was about to make his move so had my brush off ready to go but his well worded introduction came from left field...

'Hi'

'Hey'

'Listen would... You know what, never mind.  I was going to offer to buy you a drink and ask your name, but I can tell that you and I would never work'

(delivered with a cheeky smile) 

'erm... ok'

(ohhhh good because now I want to ask why)

Before I knew it, he and his friend had joined our table and we were sharing a bottle of wine.

So in the spirit of all things chat-up line related I thought I would google those listed as 'Top 10' and tell you what I think.

1. "I just thought you should know that you have a really nice...."
   If the guy is attractive I am sure this one would work but I'm not a fan, it is too schmoozy
2. "Wow! I really like that (insert item of clothing or fragrance) you're wearing."
   WAY too obvious
3. "Would you like an escort to your... ?"
   Run! Run away and never look back.  This reeks of dare I say it... date-rape
4. "You look like you might be interested in some great conversation."
   This would instantly convince me the guy was up his own ass and likes to play the numbers game.
5. "Don't you find this place...?"
   I think it would be very difficult to find an ending to this sentence that didn't sound either overly enthusiastic or pompous
6. "Excuse me, can you help me with...?"  
   A very mediocre line if you are trying to come in on the charm offencive.
7. "Do you come here often? I could use your opinion about something.... "
   Simply awful.
8. "Can I interest you in a glass of... ?"
   Talk about uncreative and seriously... This is dangerous territory for a man to use unless he wants to open himself up to being a human cash-point for the night.
9. "Would you like to dance?"
   I actually really like this one.  Most girls/women I know love to dance and its a very retro yet fun introduction.
10. "Excuse me, is this seat taken?"
    No, it isn't but if you think I'm going to give you my attention after you sit down, you have another thing coming.

What do you think bloggers... do you have any fave's?

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The Rolling Stones - Beast of Burden

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-tRdBsnX4N4

Resolution Time

So it's that time of year again where we all make 101 promises we don't keep, people go on cabbage soup diets, everyone hits the gym and at least 3 of your friends have declared a 'detox' all to fall apart and usually before February 1st.

I'm not big on resolutions to be honest as I think big changes in anyone's life tend to happen more organically, but as this year I shall be turning 30 as well I  decided to have a long hard think about something that I could do, that I would be able to keep momentum in, and that would benefit me in the long run... To help people less.

Yes bloggers, you read right.  My resolution for 2012 is to 'help people less'.  It may sound completely selfish but trust me when I say I think it is a long time coming.  You see, for those of you who have been reading my blog a while you will have seen that I somehow always end up with a 'pet project', someone whose life is more screwed up than mine, is on the brink of depression, and somehow I always end up being the therapist.  Well no more.

I'm not going to lie, this is a circle I have been down several times, to the point that more than one person has pointed out I am the character in the film Sweet November, and I have likened myself to Iris in The Holiday, but the events of 2011 have definitely been enough to make me realise that the time and energy I put into these people is not only wasted, but could be better spent elsewhere... improving myself.

On the run up to Christmas one of my cats was really unwell, I had to take him to the vet and as a result (long story short) he needed to go back to the vet for a follow up on Christmas Eve, the day after I was meant to head to my mum/brother's for the holidays.  Anyway the G-Star was due to stay at my house during this time but had to work at the time of the appointment and so I had to ask Wonka if she could take the cat to the vet for me (would have taken 30mins tops out of her day).  Wonka was the perfect choice, she had finished work the week before, had already finished her Christmas shopping and as she still lives at home with her folks, had absolutely nothing to organise.  Yet, and yes you have guessed it... She refused to help.  I left her a voicemail and text in the morning (4days before Xmas eve) and despite knowing she has her phone  permanently glued to her hand, she didn't contact me until late that evening when I received a text saying she said she was 'too busy'.  

To put the whole thing into perspective...  I completely understand that Christmas Eve is the worst time to ask for someone to help, and had Wonka called me back and said 'hey I'm sorry but I have X, Y, Z to do' I would have said 'hey thanks for getting back to me, no problem' but there are several facts that made the whole thing hard to swallow:

• In the last 6months I have been an emotional crutch to Wonka.  We are talking phone calls with tears and worries first thing in the morning, last thing at night and sometimes in the middle of the night.  I have helped her gain confidence, widen her social circle, have helped her with work worries, boyfriend issues, dating, the list is endless.
• Wonka has invited herself to my house on several occasions to 'get away from it', and each time I have shifted plans to help support her as much as possible.  A whole weekend of a depressed and needy person isn't exactly my idea of fun either.
• Not once have I asked Wonka to do me a favour.
• I let Wonka know that she was my last resort and unless she would be able to take less than an hour out to help me out (she has a car), I was going to have to miss Christmas with my family (I hadn't seen them for over 7mths).
• The day Wonka was 'too busy' to help she posted and checked-in on Facebook several times at coffee shops, parks, etc with a friend she sees 3/4 times a week.  Once even to say she had been on a relaxed day of fun.

As you can tell... Straw and camel.  Needless to say I deleted Wonka from Facebook, blocked her from whattsapp, and haven't replied to a text or email since (she has sent several).  Fuck it!  If the one and only time I have asked her for help she can't be assed when she has the time and means to do so... well then, I need her friendship like a hole in the head.

Anyway what it all boils down to is a wake up call.  I mean, Wonka is only one example and I could think of a heap, Mr X, and Six just to name a couple and now it's time for a change.

Oh and another thing...  If my life isn't looking more lined up by 2013... I'm going to actively start putting things into place to become a solo parent.   Think >>>

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This Ain't A Love Song - Scouting For Girls
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=886AQqcM8Tk

T-8

Not long till 2012... And in true Ser3ndipity style, we will bring it in with a straight talking blog :)


Have a great one! x

Watch This Space

I'll be back tomorrow x

Face down in a world of tired

I can't remember ever feeling this tired.  The last few weeks have been nothing short of full-on and I swear I could sleep for a month solid.

One of my cats had to go to the vet with an emergency on Tuesday so despite today being my first day of annual leave and my train ticket to  visit family for Christmas dated tomorrow afternoon, at this moment in time I'm not sure I'm going to make it.  He seems to be feeling better in himself but has to have a lot of eye care and has a follow-up vet appointment on Xmas eve.  When I go away G-Star always comes to stay at my flat and looks the kitty cats, but I think asking him to take one of them to the vet and to also try and get eye drops into a wiggle monster twice a day is probably a bit much to ask.  I will find out tonight when he comes round to pick up keys.

With the flooding the flat has had, the days without elec and the fact I haven't been in to get anything done, today is 'cleaning day'.  I've a heap of laundry to do (first load in now), a bowl of washing up, my bedroom to tidy (there are clothes everywhere), the bathroom to give a once over, and the whole flat to hoover and mop.  G-Star is set to come between 6-7pm tonight so the aim is to have everything done by then so I can bribe him with a Domino's pizza and start getting my Christmas head on.

Dear Santa,

This Year I'd love it if you could help me out with:

• A holiday somewhere sunny
• A gorgeous, smart, honest, funny, successful man
• A weight loss miracle
• The perfect job

Bit of an adventurous list, I'm not sure I'll be very lucky.  Especially as I'm not sure I made the nice list

Radio Ser3ndipity

Hi all, this last few weeks have been hectic hence the lack of blog.  I will however be back and ready to blog frequently again from Friday so you lucky bloggers will have me to keep you entertained over the holidays :)

I've also decided to up the anti and run a once a month 1hr radio station for music, chat and maybe even to open up the forum for a few questions.

I'm in the process of setting up the site now but we will be good to go by Xmas.

In the mean time here is a super fast update:

WORK/UNI

To say I am lacking in enjoyment for my job at the moment is an understatement.  Luckily come New Year I can start looking for a new one as things with Uni have gone slightly awry.

LOVE LIFE

I took myself off online dating around 6-8 weeks ago now purely because it doesn't seem to be the forum to find my 'type' so on to the next thing.

I am crushing a little on someone at the moment, I will tell you more when I blog later this week but it is a bit of a non-starter.

Mr X tried to get in touch in a super crappy, really annoying way so I ignored him.  OOJ tried to make me jealous in some kind of asswipe last ditch attempt to somehow make me commit to being his long-term gf.  I was not amused.

FLAT

I've had 2 floods in the last little while with the winds and freak storms which due to the location of both left me without electricity for 7 days in total which was a total nightmare.  I'm going to leave this city/flat at the end of February (well that's the current plan, I'm going to think about it over Xmas).

CHRISTMAS

I'm taking 4days out this year to do the family thing and spend the holidays between my mum and one of my brothers.  My other brother is invited but he doesn't seem to be putting in any effort to make it at this stage.  (I should really tell you about my brothers).

Zombie

Shattered doesn't quite cut it, this last week I've been rammed with work/deadlines and this coming week isn't much better.  *sigh

I think prince charming got lost on his way!

I feel like the walking dead.  I've two options moving forward, I can either caffine overload or take a leaf out of Elizabeth Bathory's books and start bathing in the blood of dead virgins... I think I might stick to option 1 lol

If You Can't Beat Them...

If officially feels like the creep up of Christmas and with it brings the end of 2011.


So to get us in the festive spirit I thought I would give you my top 5 Christmas lists:


Movies

1. The Holiday - A fantastic cast and a character I can relate to in Iris
2. Elf - It doesn't matter how many times I see this, it still makes me giggle
3. Miracle on 34th Street - A heart warming feel-good Christmas movie
4. Home Alone 2 - My favourite of the franchise purely because of the bird lady
5. The Muppet Christmas Carol - Who doesn't love the muppets

Songs

1. Do They know Its Christmas - Band Aid/Band Aid 20
2. Fairytale of New York - The Pogues
3. All I want for Christmas is You - Mariah Carey
4. In the bleak midwinter - Unknown
5. Sleigh Ride - Unknown

Things to see/do

1. Play old school boardgames with friends/family
2. Wrap presents
3. Build a snowman / have a snowball fight
4. Watch the city as it becomes adorned in fairy lights
5. Soak up the Christmas spirit when everyone becomes that little bit nicer

The Little Matchstick Girl

I am frozen.  


I have the heating in my flat on full (which is usually great) and for some reason there is still a chill.  I am someone who gets cold hands, feet and nose quite easily but all of me is icy this evening.


I caught a chill on my way to and from work and can't seem to shake it.  I'm going to have to make a hot water bottle in a minute just for sitting on the couch.   I hope people without a home manage to find somewhere warm to sleep tonight as  I think this is as cold as it has been in a few years.  I know we aren't looking at minus temperatures but sometimes the icy wind makes it feel colder than a simple -3/4.  I'm frozen and it just started snowing again.

I've a super busy week ahead, and not one of nice things.  I suspect that I will be ready to drop come the weekend.  I already have 197 emails from last week I haven't quite managed to get through so I'm going to have to powerhouse to get back on track this week.  I can't wait till I finish Uni and I've only got one set of deadlines to manage.


On the plus side I popped into tesco on my way home and was drawn to the dessert section so I'm about to grab myself a chilling tarte au citron from the fridge :)

Sleepless In Seattle

I <3 Tom Hanks.

I <3 him in almost every movie I have seen him in.

He is handsome, polite, funny and has that super kissable lip/chin thing going on.

I need to find me a Tom Hanks.

The only question I have on my mind at the moment is if I can order takeaway food and collect it from the door in my PJs with crazy ass clean but un-straightened hair (think birds nest), and no makeup??

If you haven't guessed, I'm having a bit of a Bridget Jones evening.  The singing comes next... :p

Stating The Obvious

I know it is well known that what you want isn't necessarily what you need but lately something about this resonates with me.

I know what I want, or at least I think I do... Well I'm closer to knowing than I have been in the past at least.  What I need on the other hand, that seems to be something I can't get quite right.  Without stating the obvious like food, water, oxygen;  I think people rarely know what they truly need.  

Life is so complicated.  From the day we are born until the day we die we are told what to do, how to act, how not to act, what is acceptable, what isn't... we are controlled, conformed and institutionalised.  I don't know what I really think about it to be honest, I just can't help wondering if somehow, somewhere we got it all a little wrong.  

Are we too busy working towards the 'bigger picture' and striving for an ideal that we forget to live in the here and now?

Does life really have to be so complicated?

Would I want it to be simpler?

I can't help thinking that 30 is looming round the corner and I am nowhere near where I wanted to be or saw myself being at that age.  I also can't help but think that for the last 5years I have been working my ass off, chasing an ideal, stressing, worrying, straight out grinding myself down and for what?  

The last 5years have passed me by so fast.  I've been dragged down by the complexities of chasing something just out of reach and I'm not even sure what I'm looking for even exists.  


The real question is... where now?

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Your Disguise - James Greenspun

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pLblIH3bk-0