Suggestion1: Top 10 M/F

Afternoon bloggers.  I thought over the next 4 days I would cover off the suggestions left by a few of you. I'm leaving out a couple but here is a list of your next 3 days worth of reading:

• Best/worst sex
• Fettishes
• Valentines day

And to kick us off today, we are starting with Top 10 Men/Women (although I am sure we have covered something similar in the past).  This could be interesting as I think looking at the type of person someone is attracted to gives a lot away about their personality.  I have to say though, I am interested to know who your Top 10 are so if the notion takes you... post them in the comments box.

Lets start with the men... 

1. Channing Tatum (Hot, Tall, Athletic, Kissable lips)
2. Ryan Reynolds (Hot, Tall, Athletic, Funny)
3. Jesse Eisenberg (Gorgeous lips, Sexy voice, Intelligent)
4. Ian Somerholder (Tall, Dark, Smouldering eyes, Mischievous smile)
5. Jack Whitehall (Tall, Funky hair, Preppy, Funny)
6. Taylor Lautner (Tall, Athletic, Perfect teeth, Perfect smile)
7. Ashton Kutcher (Tall, Funky, Intelligent)
8. Chad Michael Murray (Tall, Athletic, Preppy)
9. Jared Leto (Funky hair, Intense eyes, Amazing voice)
10. Matt Damon (Perfect teeth, Intelligent, Charismatic)

And here are the girlies (it pays to be bi when doing this one :p)

1. Katherine Moening (Awesome hair, Eyeliner eyes, Androgynous)
2. Kate Hudson (Quirky, Perfect teeth, Funny)
3. Ellen Page (Cute, Intelligent, Great smile)
4. Drew Barrymore (Individual, Quirky, Funky)
5. Sophia Bush (Perfect Teeth, Sexy voice, Awesome figure)
6. Christina Ricci (Sexual, Intense eyes, Individual)
7. Sandra Bullock (Great Smile, Clumsy, Great breasts)
8. Ariana ? from Sorority Girls UK (Perfect teeth, Sexy, Gorgeous figure)
9. Christina Scabbia (Awesome hair, Eyeliner eyes, Great breasts)
10. Sara Rue (Funky, Beautiful smile, Curvacious)

I look forward to seeing what you guys think and who you are attracted to.  Talk about an innocent kick off point for sex and fettishes later in the week lol

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Donna Summers - I Love You Always Forever
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SqdWTeXWvOg&ob=av2e

Just A Song

Sometimes... Its all you need to trigger a 1001 memories you forgot you had.

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Ocean Colour Scene - The Day We Caught The Train

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EsuC7kTLVU4

Can't Talk Now

It appears my easy to organise full-on weekend plans will all fall by the way side as my cold has officially peaked and I have no voice.  And no, I'm not laying it on thick saying I have no voice when I really have a croaky quieter version (that has come and gone).  I woke up this morning and there is literally no coherent sound coming out of my voice, only a series of bizzare and stinted noises.

I'm still hopeful that things will get better overnight and if I don't use my voice at all today, so I've only cancelled tonight's plans so far and am hoping I will be able to make tomorrow.

The saving grace is that I am on one of my scheduled days off today so I can live it up on the couch, wearing a heap of layers, under a blanket, watching movies.  I might even go one step further and order takeout for dinner so I don't have to cook.

Think I'lll do a topical blog either later this evening or tomorrow so let me know which subjects you fancy deliberating and I will run with one of them.

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Copeland - The Day I Lost My Voice (suitcase song)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XlPQF0ATGi8

*sniff *cough *splutter

Uuuuuurggghhhhhh I feel dreadful.

You know when you wake up in the morning and you have those few seconds where you kind of wiggle and check your body is in full working order before you start to think about your day?  Well I woke up this morning and within that brief moment in time the words 'ahhhh crap' flew through my mind.

I thought I had hit the hump with my cold a few days ago, but as I work in a really populated place with air-con, needless to say I must have picked up some new germy germs earlier in the week that have since somehow mixed and left my body in a murky mess.

I can't think of anything I would rather do today than eat some hot stodgy food and hide out on my couch, unfortunately I have work.  In normal circumstances I would probably start rescheduling my diary for the rest of the week, giving myself some low-key time to recoup, a spot of admin, report updating, clearing off emails etc.  Alas, the next two days are full of back to back meetings.  

It is APR week for my team and as I prefer to work full-throttle when it comes to appraisals/reviews rather than spread them out over the course of the month, the admin assistant has booked me one after another, after another for the next two days with a mere 30min break each day to take a breath.  Normally I would be pleased, one week and a whole heap of actions completed; this time, not so much.

I want layers, lots and lots of clothing layers, fingerless gloves, a hat, a scarf (definitely a scarf), a blanket, an unlimited supply of hot drinks, home made carb loaded food and a selection of movies to fall asleep to.  I definitely don't want hour after hour of meetings, stats analysis, difficult conversations and expectation setting.  

Oh well, in the words of the Rolling Stones... 'You can't always get what you want'

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Rizzle Kicks - Mamma Do The Hump

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SxEINSBsbeo

Social Calendar

As the next three months are set to be ones for big changes... new city, new job etc.  I have decided to party hard at the same time.

I put myself on a social networking site for meet ups the other day not knowing what to expect but to my surprise it is just a bunch of cool people organising high and low-key nights all over the city.  It isn't for singles and the mix of people seems to be vast.  I'm booked on my first social this Friday at a rock bar so I will keep you posted.  If it goes well I might use the same site to link up with people when I am travelling with work too.

I also stumbled upon a woman who posted an amusing ad on gumtree and replied to find out several other girls in their late 20's and early 30's had done also.  We are having our first meet this Saturday afternoon at a coffee house.  

So as you can see bloggers, all in all I may have managed to organise myself a rather busy social calendar moving forward with minimal effort and maximum impact.  Hurrah!

1, 2, 5...9... eek!

It may make your teeth purple and your lips black but when you can't be assed to walk to the fridge to fill your glass up a drink best served at room temperature is your best friend :)

Would you rather walk backwards the rest of your life or stump your toe every time you took a step forward?

Would you rather be completely bald (no eyebrows, no hair, no eyelashes) or have blue skin?

I could contemplate 101 things but the only subject on my mind this evening is one of numbers.  I just watched the film 'what's your number?' and let me tell you...  If the average person sleeps with 10.5 people in their lifetime... I am seriously oversubscribed!  Also, apparently any female who has slept with over 20 people is destined to be single forever... well 97% anyway.  Sheesh!

Which brought me to my task for the evening (bottle of red in hand), to make my 'list'.  How many people have I slept with anyway, and will I be joining the 97th percentile?

The good news is that I have yet to reach the dizzy heights of 20.  The not so good new is that 10.5 passed long ago and making my list was waaaaaaaaay harder than expected.  I can't remember the name of one guy entirely, have forgotten the surname of several and to be honest feel I may have missed a few along the way.  Oh dear!

For those of you who have been following me a while you will know that I don't really qualify to fall into the category of 'slut' but seriously... who knew I would make it to the 'trollop' grey area.

*sigh

This week no less than 2 men have told me that I would make a 'great girlfriend', both of which are in relationships... think I have hit that horrible land of almost 30 and single desperados.  Oh dear.

So my number... its 15.

What's yours?

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Benjamin Taylor - Wicked Way

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XrpYBm1inNs

Missed...

Last night I was struggling to get to sleep as my shoulder was being gnarly and so I was messing about on my phone and decided to clear my 'chat history' on whattsapp and in my messages.  A simple task I hear you say... Wrong!

I had a huge debate with myself when I had deleted all the messages from Mr X about whether to block him also.  We haven't spoken since September (I'm not going to go on about that though), but there is still a little part of me that despite not calling, emailing or texting him doesn't want to completely cut off all lines of communication.  

Anyway, after some thought, I decided I would block him as if he really needed to get hold of me he could call.  I started adding his numbers to the block list and then the unthinkable happened.   My shoulder went into some kind of mad spasm making me drop my phone and as I picked it up I realised it was dialling his number (4am his time).  I clicked 'end call' as soon as I realised but was convinced I had heard it ring before I got to it.  After a few icy cold moments of panic I decided not to worry about it and that I was probably just being paranoid and the phone hadn't actually managed to make a connection, after all, it would have been an International call and the phone couldn't have been out of my hand more than a couple of seconds... Wrong!

This morning I awoke to a text from Mr X wishing me a Happy belated New Year, asking if I was ok as he had missed a call from me while he was sleeping... SHIT!

I wasn't sure whether to text back, ignore the message, be nice and pretend like everything was ok explain the situation and wish him happy new year too or to send a snotty reply along the lines of 'why do you give a shit, go back to being invisible'.  Don't get me wrong, I am sure like many of you reading this, in the past (and I'm not proud of it) have played the  dropped call game.  This however, was a genuine and most irritating mistake.

I decided to opt for the short and simple response of 'I dropped my phone, sorry if it woke you.  Serendipity'  

I'm not sure it was the right msg to send.  I mean, he had received a dropped call from me at some crazy ass time in the morning and had text to see how I was as soon as he got up.  He had tried to be pleasant with the whole Happy New Year thing, but who are we kidding, that was more of a 'felt it mandatory' than anything else or he would have text on the 1st.  Still,  I am really annoyed at the whole situation and to be honest found it worryingly upsetting and I'm sure I will despite my best efforts end up deliberating my response for a while yet.

Damn my sodding female hormones and inability to just not give a shit.

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Frou Frou - Let Go
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=13WAhlE02ew&feature=related

Grab Your Coat...

I was talking to a guy in work today and I'm not sure how the subject came up amid reports and stats analysis but we got onto the topic of 'chat-up lines'.  He seemed to think they were all a total waste of time, I on the other hand stood firmly on the angle that even the most hideous chat-up line can be successful if delivered by a hot enough guy with a little charm and a sarcastic smile.

To be honest I used to hate all chat-up lines but a few years ago even I had to take my imaginary hat off to the intelligence of one delivered to me a few years ago.  I was in a crowded bar on a Friday night after work and was approached by a guy who was attractive but clearly fell into the category of 'charmer' and as such would have ordinarily made it onto my 'avoid' list.  As he made his way beside me through the crowd at the bar I knew he had clocked me and was about to make his move so had my brush off ready to go but his well worded introduction came from left field...

'Hi'

'Hey'

'Listen would... You know what, never mind.  I was going to offer to buy you a drink and ask your name, but I can tell that you and I would never work'

(delivered with a cheeky smile) 

'erm... ok'

(ohhhh good because now I want to ask why)

Before I knew it, he and his friend had joined our table and we were sharing a bottle of wine.

So in the spirit of all things chat-up line related I thought I would google those listed as 'Top 10' and tell you what I think.

1. "I just thought you should know that you have a really nice...."
   If the guy is attractive I am sure this one would work but I'm not a fan, it is too schmoozy
2. "Wow! I really like that (insert item of clothing or fragrance) you're wearing."
   WAY too obvious
3. "Would you like an escort to your... ?"
   Run! Run away and never look back.  This reeks of dare I say it... date-rape
4. "You look like you might be interested in some great conversation."
   This would instantly convince me the guy was up his own ass and likes to play the numbers game.
5. "Don't you find this place...?"
   I think it would be very difficult to find an ending to this sentence that didn't sound either overly enthusiastic or pompous
6. "Excuse me, can you help me with...?"  
   A very mediocre line if you are trying to come in on the charm offencive.
7. "Do you come here often? I could use your opinion about something.... "
   Simply awful.
8. "Can I interest you in a glass of... ?"
   Talk about uncreative and seriously... This is dangerous territory for a man to use unless he wants to open himself up to being a human cash-point for the night.
9. "Would you like to dance?"
   I actually really like this one.  Most girls/women I know love to dance and its a very retro yet fun introduction.
10. "Excuse me, is this seat taken?"
    No, it isn't but if you think I'm going to give you my attention after you sit down, you have another thing coming.

What do you think bloggers... do you have any fave's?

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The Rolling Stones - Beast of Burden

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-tRdBsnX4N4

Resolution Time

So it's that time of year again where we all make 101 promises we don't keep, people go on cabbage soup diets, everyone hits the gym and at least 3 of your friends have declared a 'detox' all to fall apart and usually before February 1st.

I'm not big on resolutions to be honest as I think big changes in anyone's life tend to happen more organically, but as this year I shall be turning 30 as well I  decided to have a long hard think about something that I could do, that I would be able to keep momentum in, and that would benefit me in the long run... To help people less.

Yes bloggers, you read right.  My resolution for 2012 is to 'help people less'.  It may sound completely selfish but trust me when I say I think it is a long time coming.  You see, for those of you who have been reading my blog a while you will have seen that I somehow always end up with a 'pet project', someone whose life is more screwed up than mine, is on the brink of depression, and somehow I always end up being the therapist.  Well no more.

I'm not going to lie, this is a circle I have been down several times, to the point that more than one person has pointed out I am the character in the film Sweet November, and I have likened myself to Iris in The Holiday, but the events of 2011 have definitely been enough to make me realise that the time and energy I put into these people is not only wasted, but could be better spent elsewhere... improving myself.

On the run up to Christmas one of my cats was really unwell, I had to take him to the vet and as a result (long story short) he needed to go back to the vet for a follow up on Christmas Eve, the day after I was meant to head to my mum/brother's for the holidays.  Anyway the G-Star was due to stay at my house during this time but had to work at the time of the appointment and so I had to ask Wonka if she could take the cat to the vet for me (would have taken 30mins tops out of her day).  Wonka was the perfect choice, she had finished work the week before, had already finished her Christmas shopping and as she still lives at home with her folks, had absolutely nothing to organise.  Yet, and yes you have guessed it... She refused to help.  I left her a voicemail and text in the morning (4days before Xmas eve) and despite knowing she has her phone  permanently glued to her hand, she didn't contact me until late that evening when I received a text saying she said she was 'too busy'.  

To put the whole thing into perspective...  I completely understand that Christmas Eve is the worst time to ask for someone to help, and had Wonka called me back and said 'hey I'm sorry but I have X, Y, Z to do' I would have said 'hey thanks for getting back to me, no problem' but there are several facts that made the whole thing hard to swallow:

• In the last 6months I have been an emotional crutch to Wonka.  We are talking phone calls with tears and worries first thing in the morning, last thing at night and sometimes in the middle of the night.  I have helped her gain confidence, widen her social circle, have helped her with work worries, boyfriend issues, dating, the list is endless.
• Wonka has invited herself to my house on several occasions to 'get away from it', and each time I have shifted plans to help support her as much as possible.  A whole weekend of a depressed and needy person isn't exactly my idea of fun either.
• Not once have I asked Wonka to do me a favour.
• I let Wonka know that she was my last resort and unless she would be able to take less than an hour out to help me out (she has a car), I was going to have to miss Christmas with my family (I hadn't seen them for over 7mths).
• The day Wonka was 'too busy' to help she posted and checked-in on Facebook several times at coffee shops, parks, etc with a friend she sees 3/4 times a week.  Once even to say she had been on a relaxed day of fun.

As you can tell... Straw and camel.  Needless to say I deleted Wonka from Facebook, blocked her from whattsapp, and haven't replied to a text or email since (she has sent several).  Fuck it!  If the one and only time I have asked her for help she can't be assed when she has the time and means to do so... well then, I need her friendship like a hole in the head.

Anyway what it all boils down to is a wake up call.  I mean, Wonka is only one example and I could think of a heap, Mr X, and Six just to name a couple and now it's time for a change.

Oh and another thing...  If my life isn't looking more lined up by 2013... I'm going to actively start putting things into place to become a solo parent.   Think >>>

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This Ain't A Love Song - Scouting For Girls
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=886AQqcM8Tk

T-8

Not long till 2012... And in true Ser3ndipity style, we will bring it in with a straight talking blog :)


Have a great one! x

Watch This Space

I'll be back tomorrow x

Face down in a world of tired

I can't remember ever feeling this tired.  The last few weeks have been nothing short of full-on and I swear I could sleep for a month solid.

One of my cats had to go to the vet with an emergency on Tuesday so despite today being my first day of annual leave and my train ticket to  visit family for Christmas dated tomorrow afternoon, at this moment in time I'm not sure I'm going to make it.  He seems to be feeling better in himself but has to have a lot of eye care and has a follow-up vet appointment on Xmas eve.  When I go away G-Star always comes to stay at my flat and looks the kitty cats, but I think asking him to take one of them to the vet and to also try and get eye drops into a wiggle monster twice a day is probably a bit much to ask.  I will find out tonight when he comes round to pick up keys.

With the flooding the flat has had, the days without elec and the fact I haven't been in to get anything done, today is 'cleaning day'.  I've a heap of laundry to do (first load in now), a bowl of washing up, my bedroom to tidy (there are clothes everywhere), the bathroom to give a once over, and the whole flat to hoover and mop.  G-Star is set to come between 6-7pm tonight so the aim is to have everything done by then so I can bribe him with a Domino's pizza and start getting my Christmas head on.

Dear Santa,

This Year I'd love it if you could help me out with:

• A holiday somewhere sunny
• A gorgeous, smart, honest, funny, successful man
• A weight loss miracle
• The perfect job

Bit of an adventurous list, I'm not sure I'll be very lucky.  Especially as I'm not sure I made the nice list

Radio Ser3ndipity

Hi all, this last few weeks have been hectic hence the lack of blog.  I will however be back and ready to blog frequently again from Friday so you lucky bloggers will have me to keep you entertained over the holidays :)

I've also decided to up the anti and run a once a month 1hr radio station for music, chat and maybe even to open up the forum for a few questions.

I'm in the process of setting up the site now but we will be good to go by Xmas.

In the mean time here is a super fast update:

WORK/UNI

To say I am lacking in enjoyment for my job at the moment is an understatement.  Luckily come New Year I can start looking for a new one as things with Uni have gone slightly awry.

LOVE LIFE

I took myself off online dating around 6-8 weeks ago now purely because it doesn't seem to be the forum to find my 'type' so on to the next thing.

I am crushing a little on someone at the moment, I will tell you more when I blog later this week but it is a bit of a non-starter.

Mr X tried to get in touch in a super crappy, really annoying way so I ignored him.  OOJ tried to make me jealous in some kind of asswipe last ditch attempt to somehow make me commit to being his long-term gf.  I was not amused.

FLAT

I've had 2 floods in the last little while with the winds and freak storms which due to the location of both left me without electricity for 7 days in total which was a total nightmare.  I'm going to leave this city/flat at the end of February (well that's the current plan, I'm going to think about it over Xmas).

CHRISTMAS

I'm taking 4days out this year to do the family thing and spend the holidays between my mum and one of my brothers.  My other brother is invited but he doesn't seem to be putting in any effort to make it at this stage.  (I should really tell you about my brothers).

Zombie

Shattered doesn't quite cut it, this last week I've been rammed with work/deadlines and this coming week isn't much better.  *sigh

I think prince charming got lost on his way!

I feel like the walking dead.  I've two options moving forward, I can either caffine overload or take a leaf out of Elizabeth Bathory's books and start bathing in the blood of dead virgins... I think I might stick to option 1 lol